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For me embracing imperfection has been quite a journey. In contrast to my thoughts of academic achievement and employment accomplishments, I learned about being an evolving human being. For instance, it is very clear a role we play at work or a grade we get in school is not all of who we are. What is your awareness of your Beliefs about Imperfection?
Has the drive to be perfect a certain area resulted in interrupting your opportunities to soar? Does it still? An example of learning from falling is that beautiful young child who takes so many steps, falling down until they perfect their walking. In contrast to what we may do for ourselves if we fall down, we cheer them on through their trial and error of learning to walk! Most importantly, it’s how we learn.
Winston Churchill British prime minister from 1940-1945 and again between 1951 and 1955 describes failure.
Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.
According to a September 2017 Harvard Business Review Article:
Companies and entrepreneurs often avoid disclosing mistakes in the creation of their products, because they fear that consumers will perceive the product negatively. Our research suggests that this strategy might not be warranted and that highlighting that a mistake was made in the creation of a product can actually amplify consumer interest in purchasing it. In other words, when it comes to making products, to err is not only human — it is also profitable.
There is difference in how people work with your Imperfections.
People who love you support you with those Imperfections and all. This is in contrast to people who would like to control you, can use those Imperfections against you in a big way. Certainly, this is good to know! Have you noticed how different people see, and give you information about your Imperfections?
A March 2017 Psychology Today article, discusses adaptive and maladaptive Imperfection.
Maladaptive Imperfection, causes:
- you to criticize yourself;
- get depressed or anxious;
- or procrastinate.
Successful imperfection provides:
- the opportunity to look at mistakes differently;
- mistakes are normalized;
- and we can keep engaging in positive behavior leading toward our goals.
Below are quotes from Researcher, Author, Ted Talk Speaker Researcher from her book The Gifts of Imperfection.
Perfectionism is not the same thing has striving to be your best. Perfectionism is the belief that if we live perfect, look perfect, and act perfect, we can minimize or avoid the pain of blame, judgement, and shame. It’s a shield. It’s a twenty-ton shield that we lug around thinking it will protect us when, in fact, it’s the thing that’s really preventing us from flight.
What are you Beliefs about Imperfections because this it matters.
The arena speech by Theodore Roosevelt’s 1910 speech pointed out in
It’s not the critic who counts; … The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat ant blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds;…who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails , at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory or defeat.
And now the 5 R’s Practice is outlined for you to gain a deeper understanding for yourself of your Imperfection Beliefs? The goal is for us to bring awareness to our Beliefs so that you can be more connected to yourself and your happiness.
- Reflection— Do you have a Reflection on Imperfection? You may be totally comfortable with your experience and understanding of it which is wonderful!
- Research—What has your past experience been? Have you felt any challenges with working with Imperfection, yours or your perceptions of the Imperfection of others?
- Recycle—Is there any part of your experience you would like to let go of. For me, I continue to embrace being human and happy with imperfections.
- Rewrite—Do you want to Rewrite your awareness and understanding Imperfection? For me, imperfection is being in the moment loving and accepting all of the beauty with all of the imperfection and diversity in world with everyone on their journey in Earth School.
- Rehearse—This is where the magic begins. Where is that imperfection holds you back. Is it when you’re with crowds, certain types of relationships, work, sports or where is it? If you love it, show up with who you are. There it is the magic of being you! Accepting and being with Imperfection is wonderful and not always easy.
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You join the community of your authentic self, showing up, and with your Perspective on Imperfection. The 5 R’s Practice is outlined for you.
What is your:
- And where do you Rehearse?
Thanks, so much for sharing. Our community needs you to be true to yourself and sharing your Perspective. BAM–Beliefs are Magical!