Do You Walk Like you Have Self-Respect?

Believe in your Self!  

I went for many years without a deep level of self-respect.  I think I covered the lack of it well!   Well, I’m really bright and could get good grades and work really, really hard.  That’s one way to live, and there is another way to live; it is being my genuine self and respecting who you are.  It is with a new energy that I learn and work!  Do you Walk with Self-Respect.

Are you working from your strengths, or are you working from your wounded self? 

The Drama Triangle roles of Victim, Persecutor and Rescuer that was first described by Dr. Stephen Karpman in the late 1960’s, describes common strategies that people work with fear and anxiety.

 According to a 2018 Forbes Article entitled How to Escape the Dreaded Drama Triangle,  the roles can transform, in 2005, a Medical Doctor and Coach,  David Emerald Womeldorff  viewed the triangle from a passion perspective.   Outlined below are new role possibilities:    

  • the Victim becomes a creator,
  • the Persecutor takes on the role of Challenger, and
  • the Rescuer assumes the new role of Coach.

The beginning of those identified roles began in our family when we were very young.  These roles are sometimes very important to our survival and fitting into our tribe.  These old patterns may or may not work very well in navigating your life including family, work and intimate relationships…

The longer you lose the respect for yourself, the more you will condition people to treat you with that same level of lack of Self- Respect! 

According to German Nobel Prize winner novelist Thomas Mann:

There is only one real misfortune: to forfeit one’s own good opinion of oneself. Lose your complacency, once betray your own self-contempt and the world

will unhesitatingly endorse it.

You tell people how to treat you!  Yes, I believe that people will reflect back to you the Beliefs you have of yourself.

Bestselling author, medical intuitive, trainer, Caroline Myss, says that in order to heal people don’t need a wish bone, they need a back bone.  She’s really talking about self-respect.

Now let’s take a look at our Self-Respect through the 5 R’s Practice. 

  1.  Reflection— Do you have a http://Beliefsandhappiness.comReflection on your Self-Respect everywhere you go? Self-Respect can be solidly there in one relationship or situation and not so much in another.  You may be totally comfortable with your experience and understanding of it; that is wonderful! 
  2. Research—What has your past experience been? Have you felt any challenges with Self-Respect?  There may be some areas in your life where you are able to bring forth the respect for yourself within the experience, and there may be others where intimidation and shame set it.  We are human after all! 
  3. Recycle—Is there any part of your experience you would like to let go of. For me, I notice the insecurity come up sometimes and I decide not to allow that into my experience. 
  4. Rewrite—Do you want to simply become more aware of how you practice Self-Respect or is there something you would like to rewrite? I bring awareness to my needs and respect for myself as much as I have always genuinely had respect and compassion for others.     
  5. Rehearse—Ahh, to be human; here to learn lessons in life in Earth School that will bring joy to your heart and soul. Can you rehearse Self-Respect in one or all areas of your life?   

*Please share your Comments:

 You will join the community of your authentic self, showing up, and being Heard.  The 5 R’s Practice is outlined for you.   

 What is your:

  1. Reflection;
  2. Research;
  3. Recycle;
  4. Rewrite;
  5. And where do you Rehearse.

Thanks, so much for sharing.  Your Perspective Matters.  BAM–Beliefs are Magical! 

 

About Marion Elaine 12 Articles
I love hearing the stories and experience of others. I worked in human services for 25 years with youth and families that were experiencing challenges. The, when challenges came into my life, I learned more about myself and would love to share and listen to your story. Additionally, I love my family.

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