Do you know your Beliefs?
First, begin with your awareness of Beliefs handed down to you from your family or caregiver? Essentially, we adapt our beliefs and behaviors are formed for our survival. Undoubtedly, some of these skills that work well as children, do not as adults!
According to Richard Harvey, Family Beliefs are the shared and collective judgments and prejudices that appear in a family grouping. … Family Beliefs may be shared in the sense of conformed to or they may be rebelled against. Either way we are interested in them in Sacred Attention Therapy (SAT) because they reveal the client’s life orientation.Mar 2, 2017
Secondly, are you aware of what your culture wants of you? We are not here on Earth to respond to the most popular jobs or status in town. Significantly, we are all unique. with our own unique gifts. Our gifts are unique.
Third, much research discusses basic human needs. Are your basic needs met? I found helpful are by Marshall Rosenberg which is outlined below.
Marshall Rosenberg: Some Universal Needs
- Physical Well-being Needs—air, food, water, shelter, rest, movement, touch, sexual expression
- Autonomy Needs—choice of dreams/goals/values, choice of plans for fulfilling them
- Integrity Needs—authenticity, meaning, purpose, self-worth, ways to contribute to life
- Celebration Needs—honoring small successes and big successes, mourning losses of loved ones and dreams
- Interdependence/Connection Needs—acceptance, appreciation, consideration, community, emotional safety, honesty, love, respect, reassurance, support, trust, understanding
- Recreation/Play Needs—creativity, fun, laughter, relaxing activities
- Spiritual Needs—beauty, harmony, inspiration, order, peace.
Have you noticed you have different needs at different times?
Is it a belief or a habit?
Fourth; it is knowing the difference between a belief and habit This will require the 5 “R’s listed below
- Reflection,-it is essential to slow the emotions, thoughts and ultimately action down. Unless you need to make a quick dash to get out of the way of a car, it is most likely a habit.
- Research,-what has your training program been in this area? Essential is the work you do understanding your patterns which began early in your childhood within your culture!
- Recycle-release old habits. Light a fire, watch it burn. This burning is your history. This is a ceremony that makes it real.
- Rewrite-decide what you want and write it for you!
- Rehearse-observe and practice your new beliefs.
Notice, is your behavior grounded in your beliefs or a re-action. Reaction is a “tell: that you are not be genuine.
Fifth, do you believe you can create new beliefs? According to Dr.Joe Dispenza new beliefs are possible to change our reality.
- “So if we want to change some aspect of our reality, we have to think, feel, and act in new ways; we have to “be” different in terms of our responses to experiences. We have to “become” someone else. We have to create a new state of mind … we need to observe a new outcome with that new mind.”
Research demonstrates opportunities. Examples include, meditation and being in nature.
Has your Behavior Changed But Not your Thinking
Sixth, did you give up a. behavior, drugs for example, and keep thinking how great they are for you? Ultimately, your body is still looking for drugs. Next, it’s time to notice the thought train. Essentially , if you start a new train, your body will follow that.